It’s a fact – if you love yourself more, you are more successful. More and more experts are beginning to see the link between having compassion for yourself and overall happiness, which is why we’ve seen such an explosion in the self-help industry. But how does it work? Sometimes it can be disheartening to try out a self-love strategy and find that it’s made little to no difference. We’ve compiled some tips to help you love yourself more.
Recognise the voice in your head, but don’t hate it
You know the one. The one that makes you feel guilty about eating two cronuts, then makes you feel guilty about feeling guilty. It’s totally normal, and it’s not going anywhere. That negative voice in your head is just as important as the positive side, so don’t be mean to yourself just because you’re feeling bad. Instead, be thankful for the fact that it’s only trying to keep you safe (but that doesn’t mean you have to believe it).
It really does not matter if your month of sober living ends in a fast-food filled booze-fest. You can always begin again. Even if it takes weeks, months or years to do so, a fresh start is always available to you, so never feel like you’re trapped.
Check your tribe
The people around you reflect your state of mind. If you’re surrounded by people who aren’t loving towards you, it’s because you’re not loving towards yourself. This can be a difficult realisation to come to – sometimes the people that we get on with the best can also be the most toxic. It might be painful, but walking away from damaging relationships can be life-changing.
Be OK with being sad
No one is happy 100% of the time. No one. You will be sad, angry and desperate at times and you’re not going to change that no matter what you do. What you can do is decide how you react to this emotions – after all, they are your brain’s way of telling you that something is wrong. Bad feelings always lead to better circumstances if you listen to what they’re telling you.
If you’re struggling to love yourself, come and join us for our Valentine’s vinyasa on February 17th with Liz Joy-Oakley for some genuine support and a chance to make new (loving) friends. Get some good karma too – 15% of all proceeds will be going to charity.